To hold on or to let go! Well that’s a million dollar question and often we make the mistake of holding on to something that we should have let go long back or of letting go of something too easily that was actually worth holding on. A break up is always heart breaking but to keep on watering a dead relationship expecting it to get better someday is even more frustrating. There is no point in holding on to situations and people that cause us pain and hurt us more than they enrich us. We may love someone from the core of our heart but unfortunately love doesn’t come with a remote control and thus we have no control over their feelings towards us. Here are a few signs which might just give you a hint that may be it’s time to let go.
1.When it hurts too much to hold on : Letting go is no doubt painful but if you find yourself in a relationship where holding on hurts and you have to constantly give reasons to yourself why you want to still hold on then it’s time you should think about letting go. To love is to let the other person hurt you but with the trust that they will never hurt you. But if you already have been hurt countless times, there is no point in holding on and making it even more painful. Think logically, do we ever justify a happy relationship? No, justification comes only when in doubt.
2.When you are never a priority for them : We value people we love. If you feel you are being neglected, taken for granted or treated as an option then it’s time to revalue the relationship. Remember a person who holds you dear to his or her heart will make you their priority. In this respect trust a person’s actions more than his words.
3.When you need them and only thing you get to hear is “I am busy” : No one in this world is too busy or let me put it the other way we all are actually very busy but the fact is we are never too busy for people we love and care about. It’s all a matter of priority. You will always find people making time for things they like doing or for people they love. So every time your heart desires to meet someone and the only answer you get from the other side is “I’m busy”, do realize they don’t want to meet you or is avoiding you or is simply not interested in you and you are not their priority. Love? It’s definitely not there.
4.When they tell you they no longer want to be with you : A person might cheat on you or might be honest enough to let you know that they don’t want to be with you any more for whatever reason. Accepting this truth is definitely difficult but to stick on to someone even on hearing this will do no good to your self respect. Respect the decision, let go and move on.
5.When you fight more and laugh less together : Fighting is not all bad. Fighting and pouring one’s heart out clears misunderstandings at times and you will even hear people saying that a fight brought them closer and they made love better but constantly fighting while in a relationship is an indicator of a weak base. If you find yourself in a relationship where there’s constant fight and you remain gloomy, sad and depressed all the time, think about the relationship once more. May be it’s time you should let go.
6.When you find them overlooking or criticizing all your efforts : Sincere efforts no matter how small needs to be appreciated or at least acknowledged. If you find yourself in a relationship where no matter how hard you try and whatever good you do for a person is overlooked or even worse criticized, then that also should be considered as a sign to let go of the person. People who love you, want to be with you, will always appreciate the little things you do for them.
7.When they give attention to others but you : Nobody is asking you to be an attention seeker but don’t allow yourself to be treated as an invisible person either. Love, attention and care is what we all love, probably we have a right to it also. A person who loves you and cares for you will surely give you attention, may be in a subtle manner but surely. If you find yourself neglected and lonely even in the company of the person you love then there’s surely something wrong. If you find him/her giving attention to others and forgetting about you, you should start the re-evaluation process.
8.When they repeatedly miss appointments and forget important dates : It’s perfectly okay if someone misses to wish you or fail to keep on an appointment once or twice but if this becomes a habit then they are probably losing interest in you and you deserve better. The fact is, generally we will remember the minute details about people we love. Birthdays and anniversaries are special and worth remembering.
9.When memories, old messages, old photographs become more dear to you than the present person : If you find yourself thinking about the good old days too often, gazing at old photographs for too long, scrolling up and down the old messages and smiling to your self and then suddenly your eyes become misty, may be you should think over. When we start living in our past, it’s an indicator that everything about our present probably isn’t right.
Just remember a good relation is never easy initially, it needs a lot of patience, care, love, understanding and above all trust. You have to trust a person to make him trustworthy. Don’t give up on a relationship too soon. Don’t be afraid to love, don’t be afraid to trust. Put in your best effort, give the relationship all you could give, if something has to work it will, think before letting go but if letting go is the only option, accept. Let go. Move on.
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